By Darwin Hunter


Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord

Husbands love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.

Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord

Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

Colossians 3:18-20


The Lord’s plan for life is best.  He is our Creator and knows what is best for those whom He created.  The home is a place which should be a warm, inviting refuge from life’s troubles.  Days are filled with challenges which constantly hound us and call for resolution.  After a day of tackling those trials, the home should represent a cheerful and restful change from daily strains.  This is not to say that a home will always be free of problems, but it should be an environment where husbands and wives work together, free of the competition and ugliness so often characterized by the workplace.

The Home should be characterized by CALM.  Like the eye of the hurricane remains calm while destructive winds swirl around its center, so the Christian home should represent calm in the midst of life’s storms.  Too many homes have become war zones, where husbands and wives have not developed the partnership necessary to create a loving home.  Too many competing interests outside the home erode the togetherness and companionship of marriage.  God planned for the woman to be a “helper suitable” for the man, standing by his side in joy and sorrow (even though Hillary Clinton considers that old-fashioned, Genesis 2:21-24, NASV).

The Home should be characterized by COURTESY.  Paul’s instructions tell the husband to express tender love toward his wife, and to avoid the bitterness which so often brings deterioration in the relationship.  He must learn to forgive without strings, and leave the past in the past.  The wife is instructed to be submissive to her husband’s leadership, which the apostle explains is “fitting in the Lord.”  There cannot be two heads in any organization.  One needs only to study Genesis 3 to see the danger in ignoring God’s plan.  Eve’s leadership led to sinful alienation from God, and many woes for the first family.  Children are instructed to obey their parents willingly “in all things.”  And Paul says that such an attitude in children pleases the Lord.  Following these directions makes a home a pleasant place where true love is expressed and common courtesy is practiced.  Thankfulness and forgiveness and consideration flourish in such an environment

The Home should be characterized by COMMUNICATION.  A home can only work like this when parents communicate.  When they work together in the training and discipline of children.  When they often talk with their kids about Christian values and principles (Deuteronomy 6:1-7).  When they turn off the TV and the boom-boxes and actually have meaningful conversations about God and His word.  Now that’s a real HOME!