by Dan Goddard


1. Frown on gossip. Proverbs 25:23 says, “The north wind driveth away rain: so doth an angry countenance a backbiting tongue.” If we show a dislike for gossip, the gossipers will avoid us.  It is the ready listener who often becomes a partaker in other’s sins.  Remember, the one who speaks evil of others to you will most likely speak evil of you to others.  Also, always be careful in what you say about others; it can and may be used against you.

2. Defend the one spoken against.  Christians are to speak evil of no one (Titus 3:2; Ephesians 4:31). We must always think the best of others and give them the benefit of the doubt. “To the pure all things are pure” (Titus 1:15). “...Love thinks no evil” (I Corinthians 13:5).  If we strongly defend the one spoken against, the gossiper will probably become discouraged and quit. Furthermore, we would want people to defend us when were spoken against.

3. Tell them to go to the one they are speaking against. In Matthew 18:15, Jesus did not say, “If your brother sins against you, go tell his fault to others,” but “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone More often than not the former is what is actually done.  A Christian, upon hearing a brother tell the fault of another said, “I’m going to tell him you said that.”  The brother replied, “I didn’t mean for you to tell him; it was just between you and I.”  The Christian answered, “If you are not wiling to go to him, you should not be spreading it to others.”

4. Remind them that those who gossip lack wisdom. “A fool vents all his feelings, but a wise man holds them back” (Proverbs 29:11). “A talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter” (Proverbs 11:13). “A fool’s mouth is his destruction, and his lips are the snare of his soul” (Proverbs 18:7).  His own mouth gets him into trouble.  The righteous will join together against him.

5. Teach them the evils of gossip. “He who covers a transgression seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates friends” (Proverbs 17:9). “The words of a talebearer are as wounds...” (Proverbs 18:8). When brethren are offended and contentions arise, it is difficult to overcome the barriers to fellowship and understanding (Proverbs 18:19).  The tongue is the root of many church problems and divisions.  “As charcoal is to burning coals, and wood to fire, so is a contentious man to kindle strife” (Proverbs 26:21).

6. Emphasize God’s displeasure of gossipers. God hates the sower of discord among brethren (Proverbs 6:16-19). “A worthless person, a wicked man, walks with a perverse mouth.. .Perversity is in his heart, he devises evil continually, he sows discord. Therefore his calamity shall come suddenly; suddenly he broken without remedy” (Proverbs 6:12-15). If a person does not control his tongue, his religion is vain and he only deceives himself if he thinks otherwise (James 1:26). His lips are the snare of his soul (Proverbs 18:7).