The Sanctity Of Marriage?
By Robert Johnson
You may have heard about the recent marriage and then annulment of Britney Spears, current pop star icon for many of today’s young people. According to her short-term husband, Jason Allen Alexander, they decided “to do something wild and crazy.” So they got married. The petition filed for annulment said, “Plaintiff Spears lacked understanding of her actions to the extent that she was incapable of agreeing to the marriage. “ That statement is interesting, in light of the fact that when the Las Vegas chapel staff told the couple they couldn’t get married without a license they went and got a license, drove back in their limo to the chapel, and were married. Perhaps the better explanation is the one offered by Spear’s record company, who claimed the couple took a joke too far.”
While there are many issues that could be addressed here, it seems to me that a lack of respect is the key to this whole event. Getting married was something wild and crazy, a lark, a joke, and after the joke was over, they wanted no responsibility for their actions, hence the annulment. That they understood what it took to get married is plain from the fact they went to the trouble of getting a marriage license to carry it out. That they had no clue about the true nature of a marriage relationship also goes without saying.
This celebrity prank, however, just Illustrates how casual an attitude many people have about marriage. The number of divorces in our nation is a bleak testimony to the lack of understanding people have about something that is to be a lifelong bond. From the beginning, the seriousness and permanence of marriage has been attested. Scripture affirms this in the union of Adam and Eve “The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh (Genesis -24).”
Jesus Himself confirmed how important and serious the marriage union should be, when He said “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let no man separate” (Matthew 19:6). Paul reiterates this principle to the brethren in Corinth when he wrote, “But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife” (1 Corinthians 7:10-11). And while there is an exception to the marriage bond (Matthew 19:9). It is clear God doesn’t consider marriage a joke.
What is the problem in the actions of Britney Spears, and so many other celebrities, about marriage? It cheapens its value in the eyes of society, and in doing so, cheapens society and leads to the host of evils we see present in. society today. It’s time we took a stand for godly values once more, before we find it’s too late. May we, in what we teach and how we live, show our children, grandchildren, and everyone else in our sphere of influence, how beautiful and blessed a marriage can be, if we follow God’s plan for marriage. The wonder of marriage shouldn’t be for 55 hours, but a lifetime. “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled…” (Hebrews 13:4, NASV)